Mine would be to make your own decisions. Seems like simple logical advice. If it is why do so many people (myself included) have such a hard time doing it?
It seems easier at first to hand over the reigns to another person. Having someone to blame seems like a pretty good set up. “Wasn’t me, they told me it was a good idea.” That excuse ever work for you when you were growing up? Yeah, me neither.
Our most important life lessons stem from our greatest failures. Doesn’t that mean if we are letting others make our decisions then we’re setting ourselves up to be stagnant? Gross.
I know I have been guilty of this.
You are the subject matter expert of your own life. Take the lead.